This is my journey through the 30 Day Simplify Your Life challenge. If you would like to join in, you can get the ebook here and follow along.
I am working through the challenge in an order that suits me best, instead of directly following the set challenge order. Feel free to do the same!
Day 8: What lights you up and what you do and don’t care about
Day 8 in the official challenge is actually ‘social media’ but I did this last week. So today we are covering what are officially Days 17 and 18 of the challenge: “figure out what lights you up” and “decide what you do and don’t care about”. This is the beginning of the mental decluttering phase of the challenge so prepare for something a little bit different.
Figure out what lights you up
This challenge had two steps. The first was to take a notebook and write down everything that makes you happy. As an example, some of the things on my list include
- Going on a walk through the rain
- Reading in a corner by a window, with a hot drink, while it is raining
- Shopping adventures with my mum
- Our Saturday morning markets ritual when my parents and fiance and I all go to the markets and get breakfast and coffee and sit on the grass in the sun
- Going to Southbank at night with my fiance
These are just a few of the things I listed as things that ‘light me up’. All of these things hold my happiest memories and usually either involve a lot of laughing or some kind of relaxing nature experience.
So that brings me to step two of the challenge: be more specific.
Once I had my list of things, I then had to work out and write down specifically what it is about those things that make them so happy. Here is some of what I wrote:
- The calming sound and refreshing smell of rain. Also how everything always looks greener in the rain and how the sun reflects off the raindrops. I find it beautiful, inspiring and comforting. I’m a pluviophile.
- I love the feeling of the sun on my back. Sitting in the sun in summer reminds me of family holidays at the beach.
- I love that nights out and walks with the fiance are quiet but we are still adventuring. It reconnects us after a busy week and breaks us out of our usual loop of conversation.
The point of this challenge is to learn about what makes you happy so that you can do more of it. Unfortunately I’m restricted by mother nature when it comes to my love of walking and reading on a rainy day. But I do want to take more time to be with the people I love.
Figure out what you do and don’t care about
This challenge is inspired by Sarah Knight’s book “The life changing magic of not giving a f**k“.
Basically what you have to do is write down a huge list of everything that has crossed your mind recently, that you haven’t made a decision on. For example, you may have thought to yourself “do I really want to try out Game of Thrones? I’m so far behind now, it’s a lot of effort to catch up… maybe later” or “maybe I should try out the curly girl method. I like the idea of using only natural products and bringing out my natural curls but will I really suit curls? Will my hair be that curly? Maybe another time”. In her video, Michelle provides a huge list of potential thoughts that may have crossed your mind, if you are following along and would like some help.
Once you have this huge list, you then go through and decide which of these things you care about and want to do or complete and which of these things you don’t care about and will therefore stop thinking about. Some of the things I decided that I don’t care about include the curly girl method, finding a new perfume and trying out Sabrina on Netflix because a couple of people have recommended I try it. After acknowledging that I don’t care about these things, I have now freed up thought space to be allocated to things that I actually do care about like going to dance classes and going back to yoga.
It is important to do a mental declutter every now end then, to realign your thoughts and just give your brain some space to breathe. I hope you guys take the chance to give this a go. Even if not for the sake of decluttering, it is still nice to think about the things that make you happy.
~ Alice Maisie